It's always been about sex...

So, I've done a lot of pondering today, and come to few conclusions, but the purpose of my pondering wasn't to come to conclusions anyway, rather to come to realizing the questions. That's what stage I'm at in my new outlook on this stupid stupid world.

First of all, I'm going to take the feminist podium here for a second. I wouldn't really call my stances feminist, though. Because I'm not all about the empowerment of the female, I'm all about the un-necessity of sex-to-gender identification. ......

What is it that I've done in my life that has earned me free meals, doors to be opened for me, to go first when in the presence of men, or any other "special" treatment. Answer: Not a damn thing.... but THIS is what society (whether you realize it or not) has led us to believe:

Women are treated like angles by Men who admire them, because women can GIVE Men Sex. It's established by society that women do not "desire" sex like men do, but, rather, grant this to men that they deem worthy (Through have emotions for the Man, Acts of kindness by the Man, or payment from the Man.) "Smart" Women will use this notion as a tool, to get what they want AND what they want (if you catch my drift) because let's be honest ladies, we sleep with people because we WANT to sleep with them (This is obviously excluding rape) and if you don't, then you fall into the next category of "Stupid" Women, who have been trained that at a given point Men DESERVE Sex. I have actually fallen prey to this unfortunate state of mind (though not recently)

There was a day when an "ideal woman" was a homemaker, a "Betty Crocker" if you will. Voluptuous women who cook, clean house, and make babies. This of course jump-started feminism, because it's unfair. Now women are depicted as ideal if they are "Thin, sexy, and easy, but somehow not a slut." This is even more deteriorating (if not more) to the female self-image, because we constantly fight who we are (to the point of not even knowing anymore) so that we can be accepted by society.

It's ridiculous that we base what we "expect people to be" on what "most people are." Because "what people are" is so... what's the word... flexible, perhaps. If 99% of people were schizophrenic would we medicate and hospitalize those who weren't? There's no easy way to answer, but based on the typical actions of society throughout history, the answer is likely a resounding yes. If woman had historically been in power, would not our religions and laws be based upon "traditions" of a female superiority? Why, when giving birth to a child, is the first thing a doctor will say is "It's a girl/boy" as though this were some defining factor for the rest of the child's life, the most important, if you will, "path" that that being will walk upon, as it starts of a series of determining factors and biased based choices and occurrences that will affect the child dramatically for their entire life. Are there differences between female and male? yes, physically, there are, and by "physically" I am encompassing within that, the hormone and neurological differences between sexes. Are there difference between the genders Man and Woman? Yes, there are a set of socially established characteristics and roles that have been associated with one of two genders, but why, in this age of such "enlightened" human beings, must these be linked at all with the biological sex of a person?

We make judgments on people based on social standards to which they do or do not conform, but rarely take into account that they may or may not be consciously making the choice to conform, whether because of ignorance or uncontrollability. And even if they are actively participating in something considered a conformity, as most things are in someway, why must this define a person? Should we not be who we perceive ourselves over who society perceives us as? It's no wonder so many have trouble developing a self-identity, self-worth, and self-esteem, when any decision associated with identity must be made while taking into account the societal impact and view on said decision.

When looking at someone dressed entirely in black clothing, make-up, and accessories, one may make the assumption that this person is depressed, rebellious, deviant, or other established social stereotypes with the color, and, having made this assumption, would never know that the person is actually quite laid-back, respectable, and happy-go-lucky.

When seeing a girl/woman dressed in "cute" clothing (sundress, pink, etc) one may assume that she is a "girly-girl" and thus conforms to that persona in all other aspects of life, and would never have the suspicion that she spends her weekends playing DnD, Halo3, and watching Sci-fi, or sports with "The Guys"

Upon hearing that someone has "Come out of the closet" people may make the assumption that this person has taken on the identity of the gender opposite of the one traditionally attached to their sex, when they very easily could be the most masculine or feminine person you know.

It's disappointing that, in a society so developed and so progressive, people can not just accept the identities of others, whether or not they are in compliance with the "average." Because, no one fits the average in every aspect, and why should we? Why are we dissected and critique by society through are differences as though they are deficiencies?




Another thing, vaguely related is the born-in identity and pride with a certain group by those without the experience to which the group to form around.

Why... WHY do people take pride in their heritage as though they are themselves a member of that society and culture. Taking an interested in heritage is totally acceptable, because learning how you came to be (and learning in general) is something that builds us as entities of intellectuality. But to take identity with a group that you don't environmentally have association with, being the Nationality of your ancestors, is completely ridiculous. Please be aware that I am speaking strictly of developing an identity based on these things. I am NOT talking (in a round about way) about things like Affirmative Action that are in place to make amends for past injustices. I am referring to people saying things like "I'm Irish, of course I like to drink." First, you're making a stereotype about the group you are trying to identify with that is, in many circumstances, not a good one. Second, you are not Irish. Your great-grandmother may have been. Hell, maybe even your parents were, but if you were born and raised in America... guess what. You're American, mother fucker. Have some pride in your own country. Or, people who speak in a dialect, not because they grew up in an area were the dialect is common, but rather because they have the same heritage as people who live in that area. You don't see people with French ancestry, who don't live in Louisiana, speak Creole. So, why is it that a black young man, living in the suburbs or rural area, will speak in "Ebonics" as though he grew up in the Ghetto?

Oh, yes. I have touch on the delicate subject of race, though, I think I have done a fine job of not holding any oppinions that would even maybe be construed as "racist." If you're offended, then it's because you are one of the people I'm talking about.


I'll write more later. I've gotta go play some DnD.