Life Advice from Marybeth: Because I Was There Once, and My Advice is Sage and Wise. Also I Curse A Lot. (I think thats a pretty good slogan!)
Okay, now, I have learned some things about dudes in my time living with a dude, and I have some things I would like to share with you. Feel free to ignore me and make your own mistakes, but don't get mad when I point, laugh, and say I TOLD YOU SO.
If she calls him, ignore it and just hope he tells you. Boys are not that bright, so if they're telling you about another girl, it's because she's no big deal. I can't remember if you said you noticed it, or if he told you, but right now I really don't think she's a big deal, even if he did give her his number, IF he was the one who told you. If you confronted him about it, and then he was like....oh...yeah...her, then I'd be mildly concerned, I mean, she's obviously still not a threat because you live with him and what not, but it wouldn't hurt to facebook stalk the crap out of her. If he keeps talking to her behind your back then you have a serious problem. Nick used to pull that shit, and it gets old fast. I understand that he's probably nervous and feeling cornered with the whole marriage thing, which brings me into point number two.
As girls, we want to get married, and we want it asap (minus me, I don't want to get married asap), but boys are a special breed of idiot, where, even if it was their damn idea, will immediately freak out and make you feel like crap while they try and make a decision. I hate to use Nick as a reference because no guy wants to be compared to such a pile of shit, but he was like that. He'd make decisions, and then make me feel like shit when he had moments of doubts.
Seriously, I'm not trying to be a jerk, but I would not be comfortable at all if whoever I was with was going back and forth about getting married. Maybe you should just stop talking about it and let him ask you in a spontaneous way. That way he can reconcile with the whole marriage thing on his own terms without feeling like he's being pressured into it? I'm not saying you're doing that, I'm just saying he probably has moments where he feels like that.
I dunno, but I'm really glad that part of my life is over. I'm not saying our situations were similar, but I'm very happy now. Brian told me last night sometimes he feels like him and I are a dream, that made me smile.
-mb
Sunday, August 1, 2010
So you know all of those work-from-home scams? Well, I found one that might not be a scam. I mean, I have SCOURED the internet for dirt on this company and I have found....nothing. Nothing but good reviews that is. I'm only half considering it, but I thought I'd share the info.
http://store.workathometruth.com/the-video-presentation.php
also, http://www.workathometruth.com/blog/ is great at pointing out a bunch of scams, but I usually just assume things are a scam, without anyone needing to tell me they are.
While I'm talking about scams, fashionbay.com is a huge scam... but also very profitable if you like taking advantage of people and you are intelligent. It's an auction site for anything from purses to prepaid visa cards. These things go for dirt cheap, i.e. $100 card going for $3. Of course there's a catch, if you didn't think there would be a catch, you are not intelligent enough to take advantage of this site, but I highly recommend you go there and make it easier for everyone else. The catch is you can only raise the bid by $0.01 at a time. Not a big catch right? wrong. Because every bid costs you $0.89. So, you could end up spending more on bidding than the item is worth. The way to take advantage of this (I have done this, and can promise you, it works if you are veeeery patient) is to observe several auctions, and what the final bid is. You can do this by scrolling down to the bottom of the page and looking at the "Recently completed auctions." Find something comparable to the item you want, and notice what the price was. If you're going to bid on anything, do not place a single bid until it reaches that price. It is true that auctions will end before you ever bid, but you will avoid making huge mistakes this way. Say, for instance, you're bidding on $100 card, and the last auction for a $100 went for $4.00 (as you can see this company makes a friggin fortune.) when the price reaches $4.00 start bidding. Set an amount for yourself ahead of time, i.e. $25, that you're willing to lose to try and get the $100. everytime the auction timer hits 1 sec, if someone bids, it adds 15 sec back on the clock.
Most people will wait for that timer to hit 1 sec, and then bid. You start by doing that. after a few bids, it will likely be only you and one other person (if anyone) bidding back and forth. At that point, you should start bidding immediately after they bid. This plays a psychological game with the other bidder that says, "bitch, I am not backing down" and they will 9/10 times back out and let you when rather quickly.
Some of the auctions are for more bids. If you're going to keep doing this, it's not a bad idea, but... overall you're not getting much out of it, and the risk of losing is less worth it.
Also, make sure your first win is in a beginner auction, because after that, you are no longer allowed to bid in beginner auctions. Plus, the people bidding in those have no idea what the fuck they're doing.
Ok, so... now that our blog looks like an ad scam... on to things more real life-y.
William and I agreed to get engaged at the end of the school year.... last night we had a conversation and he sounded really unsure about that decision. I mean... fucking make up your mind here. Do not waste my time. I was thinking on the way back from the store today how mad at myself I would be if William and I broke up shortly after college. I mean, all this time I could be trying to meet my soulmate, but here I am thinking I have him, right? It's not fair to me.
I'm really frustrated about this. He keeps going back and forth! One day we're talking about wedding ideas, and the next he's telling me that "engagement just seems like such a big step, and I just don't know if I'm ready."
Also, a girl asked him for his phone number on facebook the other day. They were talking back and forth and then she was like, "blah blah blah, coolness. What's ur #?" I know this because he told me, and added "Here I thought we were just talking, and now I'm like 'what is this conversation escalating to?' ". I told him she probably wanted to text him, and that he should just tell her he doesn't text and that their convo would have to stay on facebook. You know what he did? He gave her his gd phone number.
I asked if she was cute and he said, "She's fairly attractive. I mean, she's not super attractive, but... she's attractive."
If she calls, I'm answering his phone and working in that I'm his live-in girlfriend somehow.
I'm a bitch.
http://store.workathometruth.com/the-video-presentation.php
also, http://www.workathometruth.com/blog/ is great at pointing out a bunch of scams, but I usually just assume things are a scam, without anyone needing to tell me they are.
While I'm talking about scams, fashionbay.com is a huge scam... but also very profitable if you like taking advantage of people and you are intelligent. It's an auction site for anything from purses to prepaid visa cards. These things go for dirt cheap, i.e. $100 card going for $3. Of course there's a catch, if you didn't think there would be a catch, you are not intelligent enough to take advantage of this site, but I highly recommend you go there and make it easier for everyone else. The catch is you can only raise the bid by $0.01 at a time. Not a big catch right? wrong. Because every bid costs you $0.89. So, you could end up spending more on bidding than the item is worth. The way to take advantage of this (I have done this, and can promise you, it works if you are veeeery patient) is to observe several auctions, and what the final bid is. You can do this by scrolling down to the bottom of the page and looking at the "Recently completed auctions." Find something comparable to the item you want, and notice what the price was. If you're going to bid on anything, do not place a single bid until it reaches that price. It is true that auctions will end before you ever bid, but you will avoid making huge mistakes this way. Say, for instance, you're bidding on $100 card, and the last auction for a $100 went for $4.00 (as you can see this company makes a friggin fortune.) when the price reaches $4.00 start bidding. Set an amount for yourself ahead of time, i.e. $25, that you're willing to lose to try and get the $100. everytime the auction timer hits 1 sec, if someone bids, it adds 15 sec back on the clock.
Most people will wait for that timer to hit 1 sec, and then bid. You start by doing that. after a few bids, it will likely be only you and one other person (if anyone) bidding back and forth. At that point, you should start bidding immediately after they bid. This plays a psychological game with the other bidder that says, "bitch, I am not backing down" and they will 9/10 times back out and let you when rather quickly.
Some of the auctions are for more bids. If you're going to keep doing this, it's not a bad idea, but... overall you're not getting much out of it, and the risk of losing is less worth it.
Also, make sure your first win is in a beginner auction, because after that, you are no longer allowed to bid in beginner auctions. Plus, the people bidding in those have no idea what the fuck they're doing.
Ok, so... now that our blog looks like an ad scam... on to things more real life-y.
William and I agreed to get engaged at the end of the school year.... last night we had a conversation and he sounded really unsure about that decision. I mean... fucking make up your mind here. Do not waste my time. I was thinking on the way back from the store today how mad at myself I would be if William and I broke up shortly after college. I mean, all this time I could be trying to meet my soulmate, but here I am thinking I have him, right? It's not fair to me.
I'm really frustrated about this. He keeps going back and forth! One day we're talking about wedding ideas, and the next he's telling me that "engagement just seems like such a big step, and I just don't know if I'm ready."
Also, a girl asked him for his phone number on facebook the other day. They were talking back and forth and then she was like, "blah blah blah, coolness. What's ur #?" I know this because he told me, and added "Here I thought we were just talking, and now I'm like 'what is this conversation escalating to?' ". I told him she probably wanted to text him, and that he should just tell her he doesn't text and that their convo would have to stay on facebook. You know what he did? He gave her his gd phone number.
I asked if she was cute and he said, "She's fairly attractive. I mean, she's not super attractive, but... she's attractive."
If she calls, I'm answering his phone and working in that I'm his live-in girlfriend somehow.
I'm a bitch.
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