Life Advice from Marybeth: Because I Was There Once, and My Advice is Sage and Wise. Also I Curse A Lot. (I think thats a pretty good slogan!)

Okay, now, I have learned some things about dudes in my time living with a dude, and I have some things I would like to share with you. Feel free to ignore me and make your own mistakes, but don't get mad when I point, laugh, and say I TOLD YOU SO.

If she calls him, ignore it and just hope he tells you. Boys are not that bright, so if they're telling you about another girl, it's because she's no big deal. I can't remember if you said you noticed it, or if he told you, but right now I really don't think she's a big deal, even if he did give her his number, IF he was the one who told you. If you confronted him about it, and then he was like....oh...yeah...her, then I'd be mildly concerned, I mean, she's obviously still not a threat because you live with him and what not, but it wouldn't hurt to facebook stalk the crap out of her. If he keeps talking to her behind your back then you have a serious problem. Nick used to pull that shit, and it gets old fast. I understand that he's probably nervous and feeling cornered with the whole marriage thing, which brings me into point number two.
As girls, we want to get married, and we want it asap (minus me, I don't want to get married asap), but boys are a special breed of idiot, where, even if it was their damn idea, will immediately freak out and make you feel like crap while they try and make a decision. I hate to use Nick as a reference because no guy wants to be compared to such a pile of shit, but he was like that. He'd make decisions, and then make me feel like shit when he had moments of doubts.
Seriously, I'm not trying to be a jerk, but I would not be comfortable at all if whoever I was with was going back and forth about getting married. Maybe you should just stop talking about it and let him ask you in a spontaneous way. That way he can reconcile with the whole marriage thing on his own terms without feeling like he's being pressured into it? I'm not saying you're doing that, I'm just saying he probably has moments where he feels like that.

I dunno, but I'm really glad that part of my life is over. I'm not saying our situations were similar, but I'm very happy now. Brian told me last night sometimes he feels like him and I are a dream, that made me smile.

-mb