Well so did Brian and I, but you are missing the point here, Cindy, unless on your first date you said to William, "I want to get married by the time I'm twenty four, I want three kids, here are the names I have picked out, etc etc." You didn't do that.
Brian and I had discussed all that before he told me he loved me, but we did not discuss it on our first date. Or second. Maybe, like a week or two in, we brought it up in a friendly kind of way, where he was like, yeah I want to someday but not anytime soon, and I was like, yeah me too.
I'm not saying that you pretend to be awesome for months and months. But on a first date you did not break out marriage. No one does. You keep all those serious topics to yourself and wait until you have them before letting them know you fully except being married in the next to years.
Since we've met we had an actual discussion about it, to which we agreed neither of us want to be married for at least another five years, and we aren't sure if we want to have kids. Brian and I still haven't really touched politics or religion. I don't mind that, I have no desire to discuss those things with him, I don't like the dynamic where you need to argue with someone about their political beliefs. He voted, that's good enough for me. People always hear that and assume Brian and I are either exceptionally shallow people, or just have no idea what is going on around us. I don't know if he pays a lot of attention, I've caught him watching the news a few time but that doesn't mean anything. I hate people who thing, in order to have a deep and meaningful relationship, you need to discuss politics and religion. Um, what? No, no you don't. The last thing I want is arguments because we don't agree with the same politics, or because our religions are different. Fuck, he's Lutheran, I'm catholic, neither of us are really sure if there's anything out there, and that's the extent of it.
I dislike arguing, I don't like friendly arguing or angry arguing, it's stupid and it's stressful. Brian and I are silly people, we don't like to argue about anything. Brian gets sad, I get frustrated and nothing gets accomplished. The time spent arguing we could be making out or having fun, at the park eating ice cream, any number of things. Instead we're no where near each other irritated, trying to work through our feelings which I absolutely loathe. So, to all those people who are feel we need to be discussing and arguing pointless shit FUCK YOURSELVES. That's right, fuck you. You are probably single, and if you're not, your relationship probably does not have any kind of longevity. Happy couples don't want to argue over dinner the merits of the energy bill of '97.
Meanwhile at dinner Brian and I can't stop laughing because we enjoy the other person company while talking about random silly things.
I like that. Nick always wanted to argue, I hated that, I always felt like I was on blast. Brian never makes me feel like that.

heart that boy.
-mb